As one of those who hold to the idea that our children are indeed our future, I cannot help but to observe the condition of today’s youth; and concede that we, the adults of the present, because of the plight of our young, are in a state of peril. We see the killing of children by the parents, the killing of parents by the children, eruption of misplaced rage by children in the form of mass-shootings at schools, even the mass-shootings of public places and Government institutions by persons of all walks of life, and the molestation of children by religious figures. The future of our existence has never been more in danger than it is now.
As a single father of three teenage and preteen girls, this discussion touches me personally, as at this moment, I am dealing with this issue in my own household. I therefore come from firsthand experience and offer a remedy to aspects of the problems we face as adults / parents, to ensure the success of our children; which unfortunately equates to their and thus our, survival.
Since we understand that our children are our future, in order to ensure their success we must first comprehend their conditions and circumstances in the context of the current state of affairs in today’s society and world. And the current predicaments make the vision of the world when inherited by them look very bleak for us, whom will be the seniors, and whose daily lives will be affected by decisions they make.
When we examine their overall condition, and get a grasp on it, we then must determine what is beneficial and detrimental to them in all things. We must weigh in individual factors such as family customs, those that are not harmful to the children presently nor in their adult lives in the future -this being because to address issues only relevant to their childhood amounts merely to a pacification of any problem(s) and does nothing in the furtherance of the agenda and focus of this examination- then, the adverse effects of the physical and social environment where they are raised, so that any methods / measures of dealing with any issues, are not undermined or nullified by their exposure to influences outside of the home without you as a buffer; an example being where you teach your children that smoking and drinking is harmful to them and that they should not do it, then they are offered those things by peers, a schoolmate, or someone in the streets.
I explain to my oldest daughter that in our culture and ancestral customs, our women do not wear “makeup,” especially the poisonous compounds of boiled garbage (I mean that literally) which constitute most of the brands available to the public, and that this is not only because of what these things are in truth made of, but because we understand the subliminal and subconscious effects and harms inflicted on our unguided and thus very impressionable minds by our embracing of such things; i.e., that the idea that one needs to “improve” upon what has been made perfect in its own way by the creator of all things, teaches us unconscious rebellion to his will and ways, thus earning his wrath; and that moreover, in the context of what we as the descendants of slaves have and continue to be subjected to here, to embrace such things which we have adopted from our former slave masters’ children, and which in reality are a means by which others attempt to imitate our natural physical characteristics, amounts to our demonstrating of self-hatred; as we have been taught that we are ugly and that we are in need of “improvement.”
I tell them that I as their father reject such ideas, any actions / conduct derived therefrom, and am hostile in opposition to everyone who would have my family embrace such. Even in lieu of this, knowing the nature of a woman to want to beautify herself, I accepted and allowed them to use light enhancements, made of all natural products, as has been done by our people for millions of years; and despite all of this, their mother, herself traumatized by growing up poor and being ridiculed for that, allows our 13 year old to follow the behavior of her friends, giving her makeup, sexual clothing, fake nails, hair weaves, as seen in the streets and in music videos.
Finally, once we have a thorough assessment of as many factors as possible which can affect our families, then we must isolate the specific things, both that which is good and which is not good for them, and both directly and indirectly encourage those beneficial things and prevent or correct every aspect of what is harmful to them. We must keep constant in recognition that children are just that, “Children” and know that regardless of how physically mature (developed) they may be, they’re minds take far more time to develop the level of comprehension and understanding which would enable them to make decisions that will have a dramatic outcome on the rest of their lives … so no, we do not leave these “choices” up to them, because to do so, when you have done nothing to guide that child’s mind beyond your examples of perverted perception and degenerate behavior equates to inflicting upon them yourself the harms that they will inevitably suffer being unprepared in a predatory society and world.
The mother of my children teaches them that to be “cute” and received favorably by those whom we surround ourselves with is of the highest priority, and “punishes” them by the denial of new articles of clothing and footwear, and the “threat” to send them (home) to their father; while failing to teach them of self-respect, dignity, values, integrity, and among others the life or death importance of education and the understanding of one’s place in time and the world, the original nature in which we were created as a people, what it is and means to be a family, a household, and in a relationship, and the specific roles we play therein and according to our particular genders. What then, kind of adult do we become, lacking these things?
The first step then, in ensuring our children's success and survival, is to examine our own perceptions of right and wrong, good and bad, and to grasp our own reality. We must understand our situation and the world we live in as adults, as it is a far different place than it is for them. We accomplish this by -to the greatest degree we are able- withdrawing from the mainstream culture and influences, studying history to gain a knowledge of self and kind (one’s own people), a true knowledge of others, and a true account of the sequence of world events leading to the present; and these can be simultaneous to your normal life-sustaining activities.
I have done all of these myself, and my sound assessment is that we are immersed in a failing society and ultimately a failed civilization (wars based on lies, corruption at the highest levels of power, and a failing economy); and that our children, having the potential to hasten it, save it, or even what is most feared of them, challenge the current state of things, are under attack by the forces that currently benefit from the way things are; that they may be led far astray from reality and the realization that a global change is very much underway.
Once we have grasped ourselves, then we have to evaluate our own detriments according to the proper standards; investigate the origins of our detrimental thinking, as it is the root of our degenerate behavior and thus our misguidance or failure to guide our children; and rectify it. This is necessary since it is impossible to correct a defect without understanding its mechanics and causes. Then we must do the same for them.
Questions we have to ask ourselves are: “What do I think?”, “What does thinking this make me do?”, “Why do I think this?” and “What should I be thinking?” Because in understanding “What” you think, and “Why” you think that way, you can correct or adjust your mentality so that you are properly oriented morally and are qualified to lead / guide / teach / train. How can we say don’t drink, smoke, degrade yourselves, etc., when we go out to Bars and Clubs every night or weekend, and are high and drunk, and engage in sexuality without any semblance of a structured relationship, and with multiple persons? and, as our plight as a people is perpetuated through each generation, to stop it, we must do all of these things the same for our children.
The youth must be made to know that things are wrong, so they will understand exactly what’s wrong, why and how it’s wrong, how those wrongs were manifested, and whom is responsible for creating them. This is essential, as this format will deny the child of any platform upon which they could refuse or reject your position, as not being thought out, unsound, and thus irrational. My middle child tries to refute me by asking how it is that I know that what I’m saying to her is true, albeit right; and attempts to dismiss me as having read such in a book -implying that I am incapable of intelligent thought and comprehension and am merely reiterating those positions to her. I am able to give her irrefutable real world examples of the things I speak of and against, even from my own life experiences, and examples illustrating how they are, why they are, and the exact harm they do to their naive victims. With examples of people who are victims from her own generation, I therefore make the point that my aim is to prevent and thus protect my children from suffering the same fates.
Now at this point you should clearly have the children's attention; you now have to get a grasp on every aspect of your existence, your residential location, your financial situation, your relationship with the overall community, what institutional and or structural resources are available, your particular culture and or religion, and your child’s specific needs.
Once you have done that, put together a concise plan of action that gradually (depending on the severity and urgency of the child’s specific needs) but constantly brings the kids firstly out of any physical circumstances that are at the root of the problem(s), then out of the mental state or way of thinking (the “perceptions”) which allows or enables them to engage, and or be affected / influenced by that which is harmful to them, and makes them harmful to others. This is because a perception that something is pleasurable or even acceptable creates a desire for such, especially in lieu of no alternatives.
Because my daughters have a lot of maternal aunts and cousins, they are emboldened by their ability to form a large body to meet physical confrontations, so they have developed a taste for conflict. The manifestation of this is that in every situation, my daughters fail to perceive any interactions with non-familiar persons, outside of the context of a confrontation. The result is that they are unstable and violent; and so I can’t take them out in public without having to physically prevent them from fighting or trying to fight nearly everyone they encounter, for reasons such as “looking at them,” or in the case of most females, “thinking she cute.” Such mentality is indeed a danger to the public, and to anyone in the immediate vicinity.
So lastly, prevent all idleness of mind and body; keep them busy and immersed in the new, corrective, and or restorative things and ways, and clarify / highlight the positive benefits of the new focus and direction, and hastily reward progress so that you will prevent backsliding to those degenerate ways by virtue of them being familiar and thus false “comforts.”
As delineated by the examples given above which come out of my own addressing of this very crucial issue, with my own family, these steps -with minor adjustments to conform to one’s specific situation- will without doubt ensure that your child(ren) is successful in this world, and is a platform upon which they can build a strong, stable foundation; and since this plan is formatted for it to be a counter-measure to the systemic influencing to detrimental behavior -which has been designed to be multi-generational- this corrective platform when perpetuated down the lineage will thereby ensure not only the success of your child because they are your future, but also will ensure a dignified legacy, existence, and the very survival of a your family. And so in the interest thereof, I respectfully and humbly submit to you this, my plan and program.
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